We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. If youâ€™ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it can seem safe and even comforting to suffer.
Lori Deschene writes a wonderful (if long) guest post on Zen Habits about finding a Zen contentment by disconnecting our emotions from attachment to the fickle circumstances of the world around us.
The idea articulated in the above quote is related to the difficulty I blogged about of doing hard things which are necessary for your goals. But also, I think it’s a big reason for the persistence of unfortunate life circumstances. When a certain paradigm or rut is established, it’s hard to break out of for this very reason. The little exercises suggested by Deschene provide a good path to letting go of your ruts, and I hope they help you focus on what’s most important: this moment.